Thats why they say check the Carfax. ive slept with 14 guys and im still tight and ocasionally asked if im a virgin. It is made to push out babies the size of basketballs and then revert back to its normal size. My opinion, the past is what shapes us, it is how we use that and apply it to our future that defines us. So that we, too, can be raised with you on the last day! Yes some women can bond with a man after their promiscuity days, but how many divorces still occur? It doesnt make good sense. You need both to function but then again so do women. I dont think anyone is saying (Im not) that a persons number is the /only/ factor is deciding whether or not to take someone seriously as relationship material, but it is /a/ factor, and a major one, for many men. Thank you very much. These are the things that are going to be 18 Reply r3l_b 4 yr. ago I completely agree with you that a woman's sexual health (i.e. 2) men and women are wired differently. And its not just about the numbers. Though there may be a difference in how/what constitutes standard for the individual. For a man on the African savannah, he looked for youth, health and fecundity (fertility). Some will find some way to not count certain experiences so that they can say a lower number (ex: she was drunk, it was really bad, he never finished, it didnt last long enough, etc). Am a runs girl last month but now a millionaire today. The only position here is dont let the past stop you from receiving and embracing your blessings. In todays age just go to pub or bar and buy the drinks for the women and they can have sex with any unknown person ( what does that mean Slut right). Though we choose to connect her baggage to the amount of partners she has had, it really isnt about the actual number. Show her that you've got more to offer than those others who weren't good enough and you'll do fine. Dont judge. Your experience may vary. This is a common question on all first dates; keeping more information private saves more hearts and feelings. So if he is still able to find happiness with her when he is not aware of the true number, I just dont see why the number being revealed later should now change everything. I know plenty of beta men who choose to date promiscuous womenusually because they settle, or realize they cant do better. Ive been through it, luckily with no children involved, and Ive known others whove gone through. This article is not condoning or promoting promiscuity as you obviously seem to think. Everyone has different tastes. In fact, you should give yourself time to grieve the sin (Ecclesiastes 3:4; 2 Corinthians 7:10). I think most people say they dont judge but subconsciously do it by playing into these stereotypes or generalizations. I believe society is obsessed with sex, seriously God created between one man and one woman Ive never had a one night stand and couldnt imagine letting a woman that I JUST met put her mouth on my penis or me eating her vagina I feel like promiscuity is just a reason to be reckless/refuse self discipline.. You say its not worth walking away from a woman you genuinely connect with. issue out, then you should get out. The one that will massage your feet at the end of the day AND bake you fresh croissant! CLICK HERE to download this special report. As of today a lot of women in late teens and 20's are in a "hoe stroll" and this article in just another trash it makes them have a reason / justifying their action. I mean, you dont really know what was going on in their life at that point either. A lot of men would have a problem respecting and trusting a woman that is currently on or has been on the hoe stroll as you call it. The skank on the other hand discloses with everyone how many people she's been with. Women have stooped down to men and act like pigs now. Not because I say so but because His Word says so. Awesome! The number of sexual partners a woman has had does not determine what type of woman she is. For example, if your For instance, you are judging that other woman for judging other women. I can see it now. Education can do wonders! Just saying that people have been held accountable for their past since the beginning of time. If a woman had many relationships and then relationships failed, this is other thing and issue yes.. People seem to forget that we all make choices that others deem questionable so none of us should judge or look down on others for their choices. If the issue of bumping into them is that serious, I would rather move then to give up on her. What I want to encourage you to do is to understand what is done is done. Well a lot of us men would have been very happy just meeting a woman that could love us for who we are just like they did years ago since money was never an issue, and many women Accepted their men back then since many marriages did last very long like our Parents and Grandparents did. Not always, but often. I swear this world has turned into Sodom and Gomorrah all over again.. This is because men are at low risk they can walk away, and if the woman becomes pregnant she is the one who bears 9 months of pregnancy plus childbirth and the resulting minimum 5 years of childrearing. I disagree with that comparison. Most often it takes more than two relationships to find your life partner. to pass on genes in males). My ex-husband of 7 years was very well endowed and my current significant other is very much under-endowed, but the sex is just as enjoyable, if not more so. Also, I do not believe in the double standard! How detailed you can get depends on how much your lover can take. Men spread seed and women try to attract the best seed they can find. They're your property. Thats such a cop-out. We all have issues, so we have no right to be so quick to judge, and look down on others for their perceived issue. I wonder how many marriages would last if they really even knew. and some are looser on the how-many-is-to-many question. To people who are in love with someone that has had sex with Not wanting a woman with a dicey past doesnt make a man some self righteous, hypocritical, judgmental monster. If you were full of life and it was so great and wonderful then you would ADMIT IT WITHOUT BEING ASHAMED. Im selfish as well, because I sleep around a lot. I can only hope altamera74 read your reply. Not saying its right for a man to walk away, but there are women who dont even tell the presumptive father of their pregnancy status. to each their own. I reinforced that sex was a major responsibility, must be done with responsibility, and that I definitely preferred that she would wait until she was marriedbut that if something changedprotection was a must! so we moved on.. after 2 yrs, i am look for an arranged marriage (pretty normal in India). Think about this: There was a girl in college who was the self-proclaimed whore of our department. A woman did not write this, this was written by a man. My personally opinion, 10 partners in a lifetime for men and women should be enough. Again, you say the past shouldnt matter. Then I sincerely hope that you school these same alpha men to not share their masculinity so freely with any slut that crosses their path and opens their legs. Never thought at 39 there would be so many issues when going into a relationship but I am learning quickly. For men with choices, who are not desperate, are not submissive, and have a healthy self-respect, a slut will simply not do for a wife or mother of their children. Most women nowadays like sleeping around with all different kinds of men, and just cant settle for one. It is as simple as that. Best recognize! Yes, this is the incident Dave Chappelle mercilessly ridiculed on his Comedy Central show in 2003, but you have to remember there was a real 14-year-old girl in that video, according to her. The first was with a woman who had lost her virginity to her bf not long before we got together. So if u sleep with 5 guys u keep a part of them five guys with you for a long time. Many people and the media would have people believe that women are so I do not expect anything from people. I am with you 100% on everything you said I am just wondering because I like your input you said everything for me! It is the best indicator of who someone actually isyou knowhow theyve actually led their life. FACEBOOK is a trademark of FaceBook INC. Stephan Speaks | All Rights Reserved 2020. You have to go deeper to get a clearer picture and to see if this is still a woman battling certain issues or a woman who has been far removed from what she once was. Shouldnt matter how many people your future partner slept with? For me I think that was the last straw I noticed myself, not eating, and being depressed I seeked out councelling and it was determined that this double standard, combined with verbal abuse over 9 years has made me clinically depressed..She has had councelling too now and is resolving all the damage previously caused by her previous encounters. You wouldnt have knowledge of what a great burger taste like unless you tried multiple burgers.. Though, I have had one hell of a rough life and never used sex as an outlet. Yes, her past is hurtful and hard for us both. You may not mind to share your life with someone who has share herself with everyone who show some interest but for me it is very a very important detail as it is part of the whole person you arechoosing since I have that capacity of choice I want to have a nice person as a whole including a matching in our values personally I am sure I would not go ahead with a woman with this kind ofbaggage. Women call men dogs when they have slept with numerous women so why would you in turn do the same thing that you're condemning them for? Also statistically, men and women who have had many partners set unrealistic standards for their future partners to adhere to. Fourth, I work globally. Lastly, a man will respect you if he respects himself and others, especially women. What do women do in the meantime? https://psychcentral.com/lib/2012/the-myth-of-the-high-rate-of-divorce/all/1/ for college educated women who marry after the age of 25 and have established an independent source of income, the divorce rate is only 20 percent! So when women say that having sex with lots of men is somehow acting like men, they are wrong. Yes the thing I am most worried about is her cheating on me as her promiscuity could be a reflection of that. You feel it might reflect on her character and increase her chances of cheating on you? Wow this has just help me so much. Exactly, the past should only be used as a way to better understand who that person has been and who they have become. I see what you're saying about burning the toxic feelings and I agree 100% I want to get rid of them and out of this mindset very badly and even from what I've read thus far this thread and people input have helped me to frame my thoughts a lot. Actually, the vagina does not get loose. And there you have it. Are you telling me that the number of sex partners she then tells you is worth walking away from this woman. The emotional component I can build well in a live- in arrangement, before we finally settle down. I really really really don't want it to leak out in the slightest and thus far have done a good job to not responding for the most part to the passing remarks we've had about her past. This shit is not a game. Just women who act out and try to dodge the consequences of doing illogical stuff. That is precisely why He came to to do what we couldn't do for ourselves. Don't you think maybe someone with a little more experience could help you? That should not deter you, if anything let it motivate you to just be better and become the best lover she has ever had. Blanksie_11 you make excellent points and I do not disagree with you. So I am simply saying view them for who they are now, not who they once were. Everyone thinks they want to sleep with pure uncorrupted virgins or whatever, but I honestly think the only reason anyone wants to sleep with a virgin, or is opposed to sleeping with someone with more experience, all comes down to insecurity. so much more than women!! It matters. Instagram. You better believe you can be loved and your are loved : ). It means women can never have freedoms to make decisions at all. A slut is a slut, and dont matter what gender. Copyright The Student Room 2023 all rights reserved. So importantly, we must take issue with the prevalent image of women as prudish and disinterested in sex. And holding those beliefs can create a bad environment for a relationship, which wouldnt be good for you OR her. She can probably just walk up to a man and say Wanna fuck me? and the first man she approaches will say yes (or at least one in the first three men). Back in the day (I mean waaayyyy back lol) it was all about having a virgin. 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